“Should we do a first look? I hear that saves time later on for the pictures.”
“Or should we do the traditional thing and see each other for the first time as we’re walking down the aisle? That’s what my mom says we should do.”
“Should we just forget all of that and get ready together on our wedding day? I want to be with you!”
I get asked these questions a lot, and my answer is always this:
Do YOU! Do what makes you both happy!
We can always figure out picture schedules and work around ceremony times and such. The way I see it, it comes down to this: It’s your wedding and you should do whatever makes you happiest!
Over the years, I’ve seen all three of these scenarios, and I can speak a little to each one. They each have great things about them! I truly believe that each one is equally emotional and amazing. It can be exciting and full of smiles, heartfelt and full of tears, or just a content, happy moment.
Walking down the aisle
First, the traditional: seeing each other for the first time that day as you walk down the aisle. This one has been around for a long time. And although it’s rooted in some old superstitions, lots of couples choose to go this route these days (this is what we did for our own wedding!). It’s very sweet to see each other for the first time that day as you’re walking down the aisle. Added bonus: all your wedding guests get to see your reaction as well!
The first look
Then there’s the first look (or reveal as some call it): choosing a time and place to meet up to see each other for the first time that day before the ceremony. This works really well for many couples, because it melts away a lot of the stress and anticipation of getting everything ready for the wedding. It enables you to see each other before the ceremony and just take a few minutes to be together without everyone else around (or you can choose to have a few close friends or family there, which is fun, too!). Added bonus: you can do this wherever you’d like!
Getting ready together
And the final idea, being together the whole day: getting ready together and just experiencing the whole day together. This one is great because you get to share the whole wedding day – the whole whirlwind – with the one you love, the one you’re about to spend the rest of your life with! Added bonus: laughing together all morning/afternoon!
So, to review: do what makes you happy!!! There is no right or wrong here. I love photographing all of these different stories! What’s your story?